The days of finding a relationship of living “happily ever after” seem to be long gone. Most spouses tend to be insecure and overprotective over their relationships hoping that this will make them solve all their problems and wield more love. This in return causes more problems and you can agree with me that the rate of divorce is high and something should be done about it. Some people say that today’s women have become more independent that they cannot be tolerant over ups and downs in their relationships. Some people argue that they cannot be in a relationship with a woman who earns more than them because this would make the woman dominate the relationship. But the truth is that many things have changed to day so as the roles that we all play, today most women have well paying jobs and more power than they did sometimes back.
Most people find this very difficult to handle because of the changing gender relations. In a fast moving world where technology have taken over most of the things that we do today, people don’t want to get into difficult work, things are kind of automated so they kind of pass the same attitude to their marriage. They don’t understand that marriage is work and you need to put a lot of energy in it. It’s not going to be as cute as it was when you first meet your partner and had that big crush.
We have heard of couples blaming each other that they have changed, its true we all change however it’s good to change with your spouse. You should put a lot of pressure on yourself and create a lot of unnecessary changes that would put more negative pressure on your marriage and good success out of your home, like at work and with your friends.
It’s important to understand the person you are with in a relationship so that you don’t assume that what works with other men or your former boyfriend will work with him. Take your time to understand, listen and improve the communication with your spouse.
Always remember that you cannot change your spouse if anything you didn’t marry your spouse to change them.
It’s important to be close with your spouse, and extend this to the bed, always make sure that you have that skin to skin contact even if you are not making love.
Have a common thing that bring you together line nick names, common songs etc. this makes your love grow and gives your relationship some beautiful history. You can always reflect on this and laugh about. I a way it brings that social capital at home as you can see how much you have invested in each other.
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